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🌻My nervous system used to be so hyper vigilant that the thought of doing anything new would have sent me into a panic spiral. 🌻You see, our subconscious wants to keep us alive. Thats its only job. So once it has been shown that things are unsafe, it will cause discomfort in your body (like anxiety and panic attacks) to reinforce its stance that these things you are doing are indeed not safe. Even if it’s just going to a new grocery store. All the subconscious sees is new=danger. 🌻In order to get to the other side of this, we have to take the position of showing our subconscious that these things are safe, and that it is mistaken. 🌻I used to not be able to drive at all without having panic attacks. Then when I started driving again, I would have panic attacks at a certain bridge and would have to plan my route with extra time so I could go out of my way to avoid it. 🌻It took a lot of intentional practice of me actually making the drive over that bridge before my body calmed down and decided it wasn’t a big deal anymore. And sometimes it still tries to creep back up! But brain retraining and nervous system regulation gave me my life back. 🌻 Follow @stef_ganong if you want to continue to get nervous system balancing tips for healing chronic illness, and book a 1:1 session for help with a breakthrough! Audio: @hawkmotivationig
Perfectionism is a poison. It’s a lie that lives in your subconscious that tells you that nobody will accept you as you are, and that you need to be better. You need to try harder. You need to be different. You need to do what they expect of you. If you don’t, you’ll be rejected. You can’t say no. It’s rude to say no. It’s not ladylike. It’s not polite. It won’t make you any friends. They won’t want to be your friend if you say no. But you really want to say no. You’re uncomfortable. You’re tired. You’re too busy. You really can’t do it. But you say yes, because you also need to feel loved. You need to feel approved of. You need to feel like people like you. We all have perfectionist tendencies in some way. At some point in our lives, we developed this trait in order to protect ourselves so we wouldn’t be rejected. Being rejected is unsafe to the survival brain. And all it wants is for us to be safe. So we abandon ourselves in order to please others because it’s terrifying to think of being unliked. Unloved. Rejected. Left out. But what if you weren’t any of those things? What if you were just trying to fit in somewhere you don’t belong? What if there is a better space out there for you to fit into exactly as you are? Can you love yourself first and give yourself the approval that you are desiring from other people? This is the key that provides your freedom. Follow my account if you want to continue to get nervous system balancing tips for healing chronic illness, and book a 1:1 session for help with a breakthrough!
Perfectionism is a poison. It’s a lie that lives in your subconscious that tells you that nobody will accept you as you are, and that you need to be better. You need to try harder. You need to be different. You need to do what they expect of you. If you don’t, you’ll be rejected. You can’t say no. It’s rude to say no. It’s not ladylike. It’s not polite. It won’t make you any friends. They won’t want to be your friend if you say no. But you really want to say no. You’re uncomfortable. You’re tired. You’re too busy. You really can’t do it. But you say yes, because you also need to feel loved. You need to feel approved of. You need to feel like people like you. We all have perfectionist tendencies in some way. At some point in our lives, we developed this trait in order to protect ourselves so we wouldn’t be rejected. Being rejected is unsafe to the survival brain. And all it wants is for us to be safe. So we abandon ourselves in order to please others because it’s terrifying to think of being unliked. Unloved. Rejected. Left out. But what if you weren’t any of those things? What if you were just trying to fit in somewhere you don’t belong? What if there is a better space out there for you to fit into exactly as you are? Can you love yourself first and give yourself the approval that you are desiring from other people? This is the key that provides your freedom. Follow my account if you want to continue to get nervous system balancing tips for healing chronic illness, and book a 1:1 session for help with a breakthrough!
I was sick more days than not. I had a multitude of diagnoses, ranging from autoimmune to autonomic, pathogenic to toxicity. I had crippling anxiety and panic attacks because I felt unsafe constantly. I was mostly bed bound because that was where my symptoms were tolerable- because it was my safe zone. I stopped driving because I kept having panic attacks behind the wheel. I avoided public places and social gatherings because I was too anxious. I stopped living my life. I was just existing, in this shell of a person that I used to be. I got tired of it. I was tired of missing out on my life. I was tired of saying “no”. I was tired of being so sad. I was tired of going to bed full of regrets. So I decided to make a change. I wanted to embody joy, so I started being joyful, EVEN IF I didnt feel like it. I wanted to be involved in my family’s activities, so I started saying yes, EVEN IF I felt sick. I wanted to laugh and have fun, so I started going places and doing things, EVEN IF I was anxious. Do you know what happened? The symptoms slowly started disappearing, as my life came back. So now I’m not only joyfully living again, but I’m also less symptomatic! Follow this account if you want to continue to get nervous system balancing tips for healing chronic illness, and book a 1:1 session for help with a breakthrough!
What if we believed symptoms were messages, not things that were happening to us that we have no control over? What if we looked inside at what may be triggering our body to need to communicate with us? What are we doing in our lives that is not in alignment with what we should be doing? Where are we doing too much? Where have we abandoned ourselves? Where are we people pleasing? Sometimes symptoms have to get loud because we ignore them otherwise. Maybe our bodies need our trust instead of our criticism. All I know is that once I learned to trust and surrender, things began to calm down. Clear up. Make sense. And I want to help you find the same peace in surrender 💛 Follow along to learn more about how to listen to what your body is saying!
🌿Maybe our bodies aren’t broken. 🌿Maybe they don’t need endless treatments and supplements and protocols. 🌿Maybe they are doing what they need to do and we are the ones interpreting it wrong. 🌿Maybe our symptoms are messages and not something to fear. 🌿Maybe we are getting in the way instead of helping it along. 🌿Maybe our bodies need our trust instead of our criticism. 🌿All I know is that once I learned to trust and surrender, things began to calm down. Clear up. Make sense. And I want to help you find the same peace in surrender 💛 🌿
👉🏼 Anyone with a history of chronic illness knows exactly what I’m talking about. We start off with scary and unexplained symptoms, and then get another spike of fear as we face life with a disease that has a name. 👉🏼We are told to eliminate gluten. Dairy. Nightshades. Do an elimination diet. Buy a new device. Take more supplements. 👉🏼We start viewing our body as broken, that we need to fix it. Our nervous system is getting the message over and over again that symptoms are a threat, gluten is a threat, dairy is a threat, nightshades are a threat. We end up with a big list of threats for our subconscious to be watching out for. Its main job is survival, after all. 👉🏼So then you subconsciously make an enemy out of what you’ve eliminated. Your system stays ramped up in search of these threats day and night. Sleep issues start, symptoms increase, so we start looking for “what else?” Add them to the threat list! 👉🏼I am not saying that these things aren’t harmful, of course they can be- I’m saying that living in fear of them is often creating more problems than they are! Every time we add something else to this list of things to fear, we amplify the hyper-vigilance and before we know it, we are living in a world of fear. Everything is dangerous. Everything is out to get us. And the symptoms just continue to amplify and evolve. 👉🏼Our subconscious is convinced that our life is in danger 24/7 and we start this incredibly harmful cycle of chronic stress and fear. I am guilty of falling prey to this too, but I have learned so much from my mistakes! 👉🏼Making big changes like this WITHOUT addressing the nervous system and its fight/flight/freeze FIRST is just asking for more stress. The biggest problem is not the “thing”, it’s the nervous system seeing the “thing” as a threat. 👉🏼Follow this account if you want to continue to get nervous system balancing tips for healing chronic illness, or schedule a 1:1 with me in my bio! @stef_ganong
🌻You can’t control other people. You can’t make them like you. You can’t make them act the way you want. You can’t make them want to grow or change or heal. 🌻You can’t control the external circ*mstances of your life. You can’t control illnesses or injuries or symptoms. You can’t change the past and you can’t predict the future. 🌻So what can we control? Our thoughts. Our perceptions. Our growth. Our decisions. Everything else, let it go. We aren’t controlling it, and the continual attempt is keeping us in fight/flight/freeze because our subconscious feels like it’s unsafe. 🌻My urgency to heal created feelings of fear and danger to my subconscious. Which made my symptoms worse because my nervous system was overreacting to everything. Because I was telling it we weren’t safe. 🌻Has pushing for healing ever made anything happen faster? Can stressing out and doing too much heal a broken bone quicker? Why do we think we can manipulate our bodies when it comes to chronic illness? 🌻Our bodies are way smarter than we give them credit for. What if we let them do their job, stopped freaking out about every symptom, and instead decided to live life regardless of how we felt? 🌻Follow this account if you want to continue to get nervous system balancing tips for healing chronic illness, or schedule a 1:1 with me in my bio! @stef_ganong
Think of it from a prehistoric perspective. A caveman is out hunting and he runs into a tiger. His instinct (subconscious survival brain) kicks in and he runs. This is classic fight or flight, and he flees. Any injury remains injured. Adrenaline levels increase to allow him to ignore pain. Any food in his stomach will just sit there, not digesting. His bowels will not move. All blood and energy redirects to focus on outrunning the danger. But when he stops, what happens? His nervous system is signaled that the threat is gone. It can move into a place of safety. Adrenaline wears off and he feels the pain. Digestion starts moving again. Redirected blood and energy return to homeostasis and healing kicks in. What if the stressed out state of your modern world is keeping you in either fight/flight/freeze? What if the way you have learned to view your environment is constantly signaling your subconscious survival brain that you are not safe? The notification of an email, the alert of a text message, the ringing of our phone. Driving to a job we don’t love. Listening to the kids fight yet again. Rushing because we are late to an appointment. Someone cutting us off in traffic. All of these will trigger our survival brain if we aren’t intentionally rewiring it and sending it safety messages on the regular. How have you noticed this in your life? Follow this account if you want to continue to get nervous system balancing tips for healing chronic illness, and book a 1:1 session for help with a breakthrough!
🌺We all have a window of tolerance, where we are essentially in our comfort zone and know what to expect, and therefore know how our body and nervous system will react. 🌺When pushed outside of our window of tolerance, that is when we experience symptoms of discomfort, whether they are anxiety, panic attacks, disassociating, etc. Or in my case, awkward behavior and oversharing. 🌺So what do we do? Obviously, we try to stay in our window of tolerance. This helps us to become predictable, safe, and small. However, it doesn’t stop here. 🌺Constantly staying in our window of tolerance often keeps shrinking our window so we can tolerate less and less. We end up in a prison of our own making. A tiny cell, which we cannot leave, or we will suffer the punishment of nervous system hyper arousal. 🌺What is the solution to this? At the risk of oversimplifying because I only have so much space- pushing our comfort zones. Expanding our window of tolerance. Getting comfy with being uncomfy! 🌺 Follow my account if you want to continue to get nervous system balancing tips for healing chronic illness, and book a 1:1 session for help with a breakthrough!
💁🏻♀️When my coach said this to me, it was mind blowing, because those of us with a history of chronic illness know that controlling all the things makes us feel safe. 💁🏻♀️The truth is, control does not mean safety. Control means manipulation and stress, but it does not mean safety. Because we can’t control everything. We can’t even control a few things. We can control us, and that’s it. 💁🏻♀️Our nervous system needs to feel safe in order to heal, and we are so used to fearing anything and everything in our environment that it rarely has an opportunity to feel safe. 💁🏻♀️So we turn to control instead of focusing on calming the nervous system. We think “if I can just eliminate this food/chemical/etc., I’ll be safe” and that’s not going to work. Because the issue isn’t that “thing”, the issue is the hyper-vigilance keeping the nervous system in fight/flight/freeze. 💁🏻♀️The subconscious mind needs to feel safe, and in order to give it safety, we need to learn to trust ourselves. To trust our bodies. To stop fighting against the messages (symptoms) that they are giving us. To trust that maybe our bodies really do know what they are doing, and that we are the ones making a mess of things with our brains. Control and trust do not exist together. So this means letting go of the control that we never had anyways, and learning to surrender.
The subconscious wants to keep you alive, period. Survival is the one and only goal of the subconscious mind. It doesn’t care about what you want, it cares about what you need. So many of us who have struggled with chronic illness have ended up with food sensitivities. Often times, we have to limit a lot of what we are eating in order to remain comfortable. So what do I mean when I say the food isn’t the issue? So when you start having chronic symptoms, your nervous system is in fight/flight/freeze and your subconscious perceives that you are in danger. It is going to carefully catalog things in your environment in an attempt to identify the “threat”. Maybe you are eating a sandwich when you are fired from your job. The subconscious just knows the extreme stress you are feeling = danger. It does not understand the exact cause. So the bread = danger. Maybe the location of the work building also = danger. The rain outside = danger. You end up with multiple triggers now that make your nervous system feel unsafe because it reminds your subconscious of the extreme stress you felt when getting fired. So while eliminating the foods that cause symptoms can help temporarily, who wants to live with such a restricted diet? Addressing the subconscious beliefs and changing them removes the “threat”, which allows you to eat the foods again. I no longer have food sensitivities. I had Mast Cell Activation Syndrome and I no longer have histamine responses to ANYTHING. This is how powerful our nervous system is. Now of course nutrition plays a role. We shouldn’t be eating primarily things that can’t support our body. However, finding your balance is the key. Follow my account if you want to learn more about calming the nervous system, rewiring the subconscious, and healing chronic illness!
🌻My nervous system used to be so hyper vigilant that the thought of doing anything new would have sent me into a panic spiral. 🌻You see, our subconscious wants to keep us alive. Thats its only job. So once it has been shown that things are unsafe, it will cause discomfort in your body (like anxiety and panic attacks) to reinforce its stance that these things you are doing are indeed not safe. Even if it’s just going to a new grocery store. All the subconscious sees is new=danger. 🌻In order to get to the other side of this, we have to take the position of showing our subconscious that these things are safe, and that it is mistaken. 🌻I used to not be able to drive at all without having panic attacks. Then when I started driving again, I would have panic attacks at a certain bridge and would have to plan my route with extra time so I could go out of my way to avoid it. 🌻It took a lot of intentional practice of me actually making the drive over that bridge before my body calmed down and decided it wasn’t a big deal anymore. And sometimes it still tries to creep back up! But brain retraining and nervous system regulation gave me my life back. 🌻 Follow my account if you want to continue to get nervous system balancing tips for healing chronic illness, and book a 1:1 session for help with a breakthrough!
I tried everything to heal, but continued to get worse… so I finally started focusing on nervous system and subconscious work. The more I learned, the more I began to trust my body, the more I realized it wasn’t broken. It was protecting me. It never stopped fighting for me, even when I was fighting it. The more I trusted my body the less I feared symptoms. I knew they were just messages that I had more work to do. The less I feared my symptoms, the less they showed up. I stopped getting flares, I started getting energy again, and my life began to feel normal. The more I learned to work with my body, the better I felt, and the better my body worked. I shed all of the diagnoses because I no longer wanted to be identified by them. I no longer have the symptoms of all the labels that doctors and practitioners put on me. I was no longer a victim to my circ*mstances. I was no longer powerless to suffer. My body and mind are brilliant and strong. They know exactly what they are doing. And they need love and compassion instead of anger and frustration. Yours works the same way, you just have to learn to speak its language. 💛 Follow this account if you want to continue to get nervous system balancing tips for healing chronic illness! I also offer 1:1 sessions for those looking for help with a breakthrough!
🧁The subconscious wants to keep you alive, period. 🧁Survival is the one and only goal of the subconscious mind. It doesn’t care about what you want, it cares about what you need. 🧁So many of us who have struggled with chronic illness have ended up with food sensitivities. 🧁Often times, we have to limit a lot of what we are eating in order to remain comfortable. So what do I mean when I say the food isn’t the issue? 🧁So when you start having chronic symptoms, your nervous system is in fight/flight/freeze and your subconscious perceives that you are in danger. It is going to carefully catalog things in your environment in an attempt to identify the “threat”. 🧁Maybe you are eating a sandwich when you are fired from your job. The subconscious just knows the extreme stress you are feeling = danger. It does not understand the exact cause. 🧁So the bread = danger. Maybe the location of the work building also = danger. The rain outside = danger. You end up with multiple triggers now that make your nervous system feel unsafe because it reminds your subconscious of the extreme stress you felt when getting fired. 🧁So while eliminating the foods that cause symptoms can help temporarily, who wants to live with such a restricted diet? Addressing the subconscious beliefs and changing them removes the “threat”, which allows you to eat the foods again. 🧁I no longer have food sensitivities. I had Mast Cell Activation Syndrome and I no longer have histamine responses to ANYTHING. This is how powerful our nervous system is. 🧁Now of course nutrition plays a role. We shouldn’t be eating primarily things that can’t support our body. However, finding your balance is the key. 🧁Follow my account if you want to learn more about calming the nervous system, rewiring the subconscious, and healing chronic illness!
🌼Anyone with a history of chronic illness knows exactly what I’m talking about. We start off with scary and unexplained symptoms, and then get another spike of fear as we face life with a disease that has a name. 🌼We are told to eliminate gluten. Dairy. Nightshades. Do an elimination diet. Buy a new device. Take more supplements. 🌼We start viewing our body as broken, that we need to fix it. Our nervous system is getting the message over and over again that symptoms are a threat, gluten is a threat, dairy is a threat, nightshades are a threat. We end up with a big list of threats for our subconscious to be watching out for. Its main job is survival, after all. 🌼So then you subconsciously make an enemy out of what you’ve eliminated. Your system stays ramped up in search of these threats day and night. Sleep issues start, symptoms increase, so we start looking for “what else?” Add them to the threat list! 🌼I am not saying that these things aren’t harmful, of course they can be- I’m saying that living in fear of them is often creating more problems than they are! Every time we add something else to this list of things to fear, we amplify the hyper-vigilance and before we know it, we are living in a world of fear. Everything is dangerous. Everything is out to get us. And the symptoms just continue to amplify and evolve. 🌼Our subconscious is convinced that our life is in danger 24/7 and we start this incredibly harmful cycle of chronic stress and fear. I am guilty of falling prey to this too, but I have learned so much from my mistakes! 🌼Focusing on what we fear makes our nervous system react in bigger and bigger ways. The way out is finding those triggers and rewiring the brain around it! 🌼 Follow my account for more nervous system balancing tips when it comes to healing chronic illness!
Here’s the thing. You can be doing all good things and still not heal. I know this because I’ve been there. I packed my diet full of nutrition, my body full of supplements, and my time full of modalities. Did everything every practitioner told me to do. And guess what? I got worse. My urgency created feelings of fear and danger to my subconscious. Which made my symptoms worse because my nervous system was overreacting to everything. Because I was telling it we weren’t safe. Has pushing for healing ever made anything happen faster? Can stressing out and doing too much heal a broken bone quicker? Why do we think we can manipulate our bodies when it comes to chronic illness? Our bodies are way smarter than we give them credit for. What if we let them do their job, stopped freaking out about every symptom, and instead decided to live life regardless of how we felt? I’ll tell you what could happen- peace. Joy. Contentment. Trust. Surrender. I did it. You can too.
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Being symptom free was my end goal. I was holding off on living my life because I still had symptoms. “I can’t go, I don’t feel well.” “Sorry, I can’t, I might have a panic attack.” “I’m too anxious, I’m sorry, maybe next time.” Why did I think my life was not worth living if I didn’t feel perfect? Most people don’t feel perfect. I had set this impossible standard for myself based out of perfectionism. Because of this, I passed on events, get together, game nights, and days out. I said “no” way more than I said “yes”. And I missed days. And then weeks. And then years of my life. I was causing myself to miss my own life because I didn’t see myself worthy of living it if I didn’t feel amazing. And then I’d end the day full of regret for not being the mom, wife, friend, and person that I desperately wanted to be. You can’t change the symptoms and stay the same person. You have to change the person to change the symptoms. I can show you how, and it all starts with awareness. You can’t change what you aren’t aware of. And your life is worth being present for, even if it’s messy and you don’t feel well and you wish things were different. They’ll be different one day, but today is still worth living. Follow me for more nervous system balancing tips for healing chronic illness! 💛
🌺We all have a window of tolerance, where we are essentially in our comfort zone and know what to expect, and therefore know how our body and nervous system will react. 🌺When pushed outside of our window of tolerance, that is when we experience symptoms of discomfort, whether they are anxiety, panic attacks, disassociating, etc. 🌺So what do we do? Obviously, we try to stay in our window of tolerance. This helps us to become predictable, safe, and small. However, it doesn’t stop here. 🌺Constantly staying in our window of tolerance often keeps shrinking our window so we can tolerate less and less. We end up in a prison of our own making. A tiny cell, which we cannot leave, or we will suffer the punishment of nervous system hyper arousal. 🌺What is the solution to this? At the risk of oversimplifying because I only have so much space- pushing our comfort zones. Expanding our window of tolerance. Getting comfy with being uncomfy! Do something new. Over and over again, do new things. 🌺Learn how to do this and more in my new course “Fearless Freedom Formula”! Today is the last day to sign up for the beta round!
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